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Monday, 09 August 2004 |
The Victim's Inner PathTowards Forgiveness = Letting Go •The inward act of gracefully letting go of negative feelings to the point where they no longer have an impact on you – while fully acknowledging that you should have been treated better all along •Relinquishing the need to keep hold of angst, frustration, disappointment and sadness •Ability to wipe the slate clean and be open to love •Ability to move toward acceptance without conditions •Openness to hear the other party Towards Vengeance = Feeling Animosity •The inward act of escalating negative emotions and the build-up of anger and fearfulness •The accumulation of angst, frustration and anger to justify generating further angst, frustration and anger •Inability to let go of wounds •Demand for retribution •An escalation of self-talk that prevents one from hearing the voice of the other party, the voice of reason and the voice of compassion and provides inner justification for wrong action + + + + + + + + + + + + + + + + . The Victim's Outer Path Towards Forgiveness = Accepting •An outward act of acceptance of the other person as they are, fully acknowledging that nobody is without fault, including ourselves •Relinquishing the need for revenge or ill-will toward the other person •Ability to find constructive ways to move forward with life, with or without the apology & amends of the other party •Ability to restore the relationship with the other party if and when possible at both the emotional level and a material level Towards Vengeance = Getting Revenge •An outward act of ill-will designed to hurt the other party more than they hurt you •Establishing inner conditions and score-keeping mindset that demands an eye for an eye •Inability to move forward with healthy thoughts or solutions and dwelling on the negative instead
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