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The Transgressor's 2 Paths |
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Written by Administrator
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Monday, 09 August 2004 |
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The Transgressor's Inner PathTowards Forgiveness = Reconciling •The inward act of gracefully letting go of feelings of shame and guilt to the point where they no longer have an impact on you – while fully acknowledging that you need to make better decisions in the future •Enabling the feelings of humility to bring you to a point of action that motivates Apology & Amends and inspires growth •Transforming the motivating power of guilt and shame into a greater ability act with love through a greater willingness to look past others’ weaknesses and transgressions and an increase in strength to accept others and to forgive wherever necessary Towards Vengeance = Denying •The blockage of inner reflection and ability to stop any self-examination that might reveal weakness or wrongdoing •The desire to protect one’s self and one’s face by seeking ways to justify the wrongdoing and rationalize the negative consequences on others •The inability or unwillingness to feel humility or shame for one’s actions or lack of action + + + + + + + + + + + + + + . The Transgressor's Outer Path Towards Forgiveness = Apologizing & Making Amends •The outward act of willful vulnerability to say “I am sorry, will you forgive me?” and thereby grant the other party control over the decision of whether or not to accept the apology. •The act of offering amends and “apology of action” to make right whatever can be made right •An offer for restoration of harmony in the relationship and a willingness to move forward Towards Vengeance = Defying •The outward blockage of any comment or criticism that might imply your guilt or wrong-doing •The desire to protect one’s self and one’s face by seeking ways to justify the wrongdoing and rationalize the negative consequences on others •Escalation of animosity •The inability to perceive, feel or acknowledge the pain of others
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